Let’s just start this post off with the truth…Being a parent is not always fun and sometimes it simply just SUCKS…It breaks my heart to do what I have to do sometimes but today’s decision was not any fun at all…
After a brief discussion with my hubby about the situation…We both agreed on our plan and followed through with it…I am not going to go into detail too much…Point though…We had to ground one of our children for the first time…We have taken things away and given many time outs…But to take several days away in a row from one of them…We have never had a reason for it…
Hubby and I discussed the grounding with our child and informed them why and the exact terms…We also gave them the termination date of the grounding…
It broke my heart though, to see the devastation in their eyes…That dad and mom were serious this time…We always thought we were good parents and we did the best we could…But lately, some things have gotten bigger than we imagined…
It is so easy to give into them with every want, wish and desire they have…What parent doesn’t want their kid to be HAPPY…But, as we have learned the hard way…Everything is not always the right answer…
All three kids have their own DSI and Tablets…Between them they have several game systems, TV, Radios, Movies, Ping-Pong Table, Trampoline, Club House w/ Swing-set, Bikes…You getting the picture…Now, many of these Items were gifts or Hand Me-Downs but when the kids tell me they are bored…I feel, I have failed them as a parent…
The days of being grateful and thankful to have these things are short lived…They want to know what is the next new thing coming…I believe our kids are far from spoiled but I have to put an end to the “GIVE ME, NOW” ideology before I can no longer control it…
I have felt lately like a taxi cab driver without any payment…Not even a Thank You…Although, we do not do a lot of things, the kids stay very busy throughout the week…You would think, that money has a lot to do with it…But this is not true either…We do not have a lot of it and yet are kids are still blessed beyond measure…It has everything to do with boundaries…
Although, I do not mind helping the kids get to where they need to be…I even agree with the fact, it is my job to get them to places since they cannot drive…I do not agree with the reasoning, that it is my main job to do this…I am learning quicker than I could ever imagine…That my job is to teach them right from wrong…The difference between love and hate…How to make appropriate and patient decisions ..How to think things through without jumping to conclusions…How to go to God first when the answer is unknown…
I could never imagine when I looked at my helpless little babies that I would suffer so much heartache being a strict but loving parent…Just when, I though the hard part may be behind me, I learned that it is just beginning…
When they were young and defenseless…I could protect them and they would do whatever I ask because my hubby and I were their world…Now, that they are older and growing into their own…They have to learn how to do things on their own with my guidance and examples…
I didn’t think it would be this hard to tell them NO about something but it really is “EASIER SAID THEN DONE”…
This is exactly why parenting SUCKS sometimes…But I promise you this…When I go and tuck them in tonight and kiss them goodnight…I know that everything I have done is for the good of them…Because they still love me and I love them even more to teach them what is right and what is wrong…There is consequences for every action you make…I still will kiss each of them good night, tuck them in, turn out the light and tell them “I LOVE YOU”
Thank You God for patience as a parent to do my best to train my child in the ways that bring purpose into their lives…
Praise You Father God for never giving up on me and always loving me…
Hebrews 12:11 NIV says,
No discipline seems pleasant at the
time, but painful. Later on, however,
it produces a harvest of righteousness
and peace for those who have
been trained by it.
